Having A Happy Life After
"5 Ways To Ensure You Will Have a Happy Life After Divorce"
Life after divorce is something that most people who are going
through divorce think about. Thinking about having a life after
divorce or thinking about how your life will be after divorce, are
common because people tend to fear for themselves. In fact, think
about having a life after divorce while getting a divorce can be
a sticking point for some people because they just aren't sure what
their life will "look like" after divorce.
Here's 5 things to keep in mind so can have a life after divorce:
Life after divorce item 1:
Think about your emotional stability...if you wanted the divorce
or not, you must face it head on.
Divorce is tough and whether you're going through it or your are
already past it, your emotional stability is of vital importance
because you might tend to be somewhat touchy after going through
an emotional ordeal. Keep in mind that your life after divorce can
be great but you must admit that you will go through (or have gone
through) a trying time in your life. Admitting this and facing your
situation head on is important to your emotional stability and critical
to you having a happy life after divorce.
Life after divorce item 2:
Look at the bright side, having life after divorce could be a new
start for you!
How may times in your life do you wish you could have just started
over knowing what you know now? If you answered "many",
don't worry, that's a common thought most of us have. Having a positive
mental attitude about your new beginning will make a huge difference
in how happy your life will be after divorce. Life after divorce
can be fantastic and it can also be very tough if you don't remain
positive about a what's in front of you. Look at the glass as being
"half full" and realize that, in order to be happy after
divorce, you must take advantage of the opportunity to get a fresh
Life after divorce item 3:
Surround yourself with people you like in your free time.
Too often times people start new relationships with just about
anyone because they are lonely while getting a divorce or after
getting a divorce. Sparking a relationship, romantic or friendly,
with anyone and everyone who will spend time with you can contribute
to unhappiness in your life after divorce. Stop and think about
the people that you spend time with and ask yourself, "Once
my emotional turmoil has ended, would I really want to keep the
relationship going with this person?". Life after divorce is
tough...so, when you're deciding about divorce, going through one,
or already have been through a divorce, make sure that you carefully
choose who to spend your free time with or you may fall into more
negativity in your life after divorce.
Life after divorce item 4:
Make it a point to spend time doing things that you like to do every
Make sure that you spend time enjoying your life after divorce
- don't forget to 'stop and smell the roses'. Some people vent,
work, go into hiding, or just plain go haywire after getting a divorce
and their subsequent life after divorce isn't as healthy as possible.
At least once a week, take the time to go and do something that
you really enjoy doing...it will help you deal with your life after
divorce in a more pleasing manner.
Life after divorce item 5:
Set specific goals and implement a plan to achieve those goals.
Life after divorce is a tumultuous time, your life can seemingly
be 'in the balance'. In order to make sure that you feel good about
yourself and enjoy the feeling that accomplishment brings, think
about a goal or set of goals that you've always had but never attained.
Then, prioritize those goals and devise a plan to obtain them, one
by one. Implement each plan and be happy (in fact celebrate) once
you've reached your goal. Your life after divorce will be markedly
better and healthier if you take this concept to heart and follow
Visualizing your life after divorce (and thinking about what your
life might be like after divorce) is a sound and logical thing to
do in order to be happy after divorce. Your life after divorce does
not need to be a continuation of the pain you might have gone through
or are currently going through.
Life after divorce can be extremely liberating if you act based
on logic plus positive emotions rather than negativity. If divorce
is eminent or you've already been through divorce, take the time
to actually plan your life after divorce.
Article By: Karl Augustine